Internal Locus of Control: How to Cultivate It Using Personal Choice

Did you know that your personal experiences and conditioning shape your perception of life’s events as “good” or “bad?” This concept is linked to your locus of control, which refers to the degree to which you believe you have power over the events that impact your life. There are two main types: external and internal locus of control.

Although it’s rare for someone to have a purely external or internal locus of control, it’s common to find ourselves somewhere in the middle of this spectrum, as Verywell Mind suggests. Nonetheless, it’s still important to discover whether you’re operating from an external or internal locus of control, as it can significantly impact various aspects of your life.

What Is an External Locus of Control?

Some people blame failures on external sources, that is, those outside themselves. This is what’s referred to as having an external locus of control.

Someone with this mindset may get into a loop of blaming others, making themselves feel like victims. They rarely, if ever, praise themselves for success because they don’t believe they’ve earned it. They feel helpless and powerless to affect change or improve anything.

Additionally, someone with an external locus of control may have low self-esteem and be indecisive. Rather than looking for ways to improve, they settle for “what is.” They may believe the outcomes of similar situations will always be the same and are unlikely to think or create outside the box. They don’t typically strive to be different, innovative, or extraordinary. They may coast through life without investing in anything.

What Is an Internal Locus of Control?

Alternatively, some people see failure as a lesson. They learn from negative experiences and adapt their actions to produce different results, and they rarely, if ever, blame others. This is what’s referred to as having an internal locus of control.

This term describes those who believe they’re competent, capable, and effective enough to influence the outcome of their goals and, therefore, their destiny.

Someone with this mindset believes in their ability to make positive, impactful changes in their life and the lives of others. They’re less likely to be influenced by external opinions and can confidently face challenges. They see each experience as a unique opportunity to learn and grow, including challenges.

4 Ways to Increase Your Internal Locus of Control

Feeling like you’re in control of your destiny can majorly impact your life for the better. People who operate from an internal locus of control tend to be happier and more successful. If you tend to lean more towards an external locus of control, there are things you can do to change your mindset and, therefore, the way you view situations and events.

1. Focus on What You Can Control

Apply discipline to the areas of your life you do have complete control of, like eating healthily, waking up early, and going to sleep at a reasonable hour. Don’t dwell on the things you have no power over.

2. Speak to Yourself Productively

One of the more challenging habits to break is how you speak to yourself. Rather than using harsh words of criticism, try to analyze what went wrong in a particular situation without making it personal. An unfavorable outcome doesn’t make you any less capable or successful. Create a new habit of leaving the name-calling and self-bashing at the door and welcome a proactive approach of problem-solving and encouraging words.

3. Take Responsibility for Your Actions

If things don’t go your way, think about what you could have done better. While you can’t control what happens to you, you can control your reaction. Take constructive criticism as a clue that guides you to be a better version of yourself.

Instead of arguing with others about the act, thank them for bringing it to your attention and tell them you can do better. Don’t let blaming or excuses get in the way.

4. Seek Help When You Need It

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Knowing when you need support, physically or mentally, is a sign of strength. Reach out to family and friends when you feel discouraged. A little pep talk can do wonders to get you back into the game.

The Bottom Line

Understanding your locus of control is a pivotal step towards personal empowerment and growth. By focusing on controllable aspects, speaking to yourself productively, taking responsibility, and seeking help when necessary, you can shift towards an internal locus of control, becoming more proactive, resilient, and successful.

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